Why is he/she cheating?Eye Spy Blog 1
The surprising reasons why men cheat, what they do to get away with it, and how to know if your relationship will survive infidelity. It’s tempting for any person too weak or love-drunk to make tough decisions, although never in the history of mankind has hurting someone made you feel less hurt yourself.
Ah, infidelity. Ain’t it grand? Ha, just kidding — anyone who’s done it before knows it sucks. At best, you keep your mouth shut about a one-time slip and carry on for the duration of the relationship knowing that you’re a grade-A dickbag. At worst, you’re having a full-blown affair and one day you wake up and three-quarters of everyone you know hates you because they found out. Not a good look, as they say.
Men and women both cheat for various reasons, but these are the top 6 reasons:
1. They are not getting any.
Let’s all be adults here and agree that after a certain age, we commit to someone because we like them an awful lot and need a socially defensible way to sleep with them on the regular. Not to belittle anyone’s moral or religious views on the issue, nor is sex the most important part of a healthy relationship, but it is a big part.
2. You cheated on them.
If you’re in high school or are just really immature, this probably makes a lot of sense. She cheated on you, but you love her too much to end it, so you figure evening the score will iron everything out.3. They want to know that they’ve still got it.
Everyone has a deep-seated need to feel wanted and attractive, not just by their significant other, but by the public at large. That’s why men shower, shave and put on cologne while going to hang out with the guys. It’s the reason women wear make-up to the grocery store.
4. They couldn’t say no.
If we’re being honest, it’s not often that gorgeous women walk around waving their hoo-has in peoples faces and handing out open invitations for sexual intercourse.Single? Great, hit it like it owes you money. Not single? You know what the answer should be, but do you have the willpower? The kind of man who gives into this kind of temptation is often less experienced with women, and despite his being spoken for, believes it to be an opportunity he can’t pass up. But if you’ve been around the block a time or two, you see that kind of come-on for what it is: abnormal, desperate and kind of a turnoff. If it helps, you can say you couldn’t blame her because you’re so handsome.
5. They disgust you.
Sometimes in a long-term relationship, people let themselves go. Maybe she’s gained a ton of weight, maybe she’s developed a drinking problem or maybe she just can’t seem to get her sh*t together in general. Whatever it is, the problem with familiarity is that you don’t notice these things as they happen over time, the way you would with a friend or relative you don’t see very often. Instead, all of a sudden, you wake up one day and realize the creature sharing your apartment is a far cry from the girl you first said “I love you” to.
6. You don’t love them anymore.
Here’s a fun exercise if you’re single: Go find an ex you truly couldn’t care less about anymore, and have sex with her. Not quite what it used to be, is it? Love (or at least feelings), we learn as we get older, is a big part of what makes great sex great. Take those away, and you’re just two animals humping. It’s why one-night stands usually kind of suck, and why the aforementioned ex-sex is at best disappointing. When that happens, it’s tempting to replace those lost feelings with the excitement that comes with meeting and bedding someone new. It’s a poor substitute and, ultimately, delays the inevitable.
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