What is considered cheating?Eye Spy Blog 1
There was a time when cheating had a simple definition, but nowadays we are more complex and less accepting of betrayal of any sort in a monogamous relationship. What do you consider cheating? What is considered cheating?
The more questions you ask yourself, the more the line gets blurred. When you listen to the different views and takes on this topic objectively, you will tend to find yourself swaying back and forth like a palm tree in the wind.
A recent study revealed that certain partners in relationships held their significant other to a stricter definition of cheating than they held themselves.
When asked several questions, many felt it was totally alright for them to engage in several different flirting behaviors while their significant others were absolutely forbidden to do the same. What if your significant other has thoughts of cheating but never physically or even emotionally connect with anyone else. Did they cheat on you? In their mind?Is cheating only limited to sex?Relationships and cheating are two complex terms that inevitably unite at some point in our lives. The temptation of cheating enters every single relationship, in the form of an invitation or a doubt, and there’s nothing anyone can do about it. So what is cheating then, really?
What do you consider cheating?
Kissing someone else?
How about flirting?
How would you feel if your partner was confiding in another another person of the opposite sex about their sexual likes and dislikes?
What if they were dirty dancing in a nightclub with someone?
Are you cheating if you take someone of the opposite sex to lunch?
What if she has a dream of being with another man?
Smiling at someone at the stop light?
Flirting on Twitter or Facebook?
What is considered cheating? Why would someone cheat when they are getting everything they need at home? Why do lovers cheat, even after they’ve been given everything to please them? Those who have been cheated on have given up friends, family and sometimes even another lover just to be with a noncommittal person. Nevertheless, the daunting question remains: why do people cheat? Furthermore, why are cheaters not satisfied with what they have?
Emotional affairs and hooking up online are cheating. Cheating is not always about sex. It is not even always about getting revenge on a lover. I’ve heard many reasons from cheater’s as to why they do what they do. One of the reasons is that they cheat because they just want someone to be there for them. Another reason is because of the simple convenience of getting what they want, when they want it.
Cheating, most of the time is unintentional. Cheater’s may believe that juggling two people is more satisfying and interesting than having just one person. If you have two people, when one gets you upset, you can simply go to the second person to get comfort and relief from the situation.
Many people just like to feel wanted, and cheating brings this comfort. In my opinion, there are four levels in a relationship that couples need to connect on in order to have a strong bond. Those four connections are spiritual, physical, mental and emotional.
Attention Without Intention
The French author Leon Paul Blouet once wrote that flirtation was ‘attention without intention’.
Whether you agree or not, we are all flirts in our own way. The only difference is that men do it obviously, and women are more subtle.
Is it true that you’re only cheating if you actually follow up on your sexual innuendos?
Flirting can destroy trust, but whether you agree or not, everyone is a flirt. How far is too far though?
In a very broad sense, cheating involves betraying a partner’s expectations about the type of contact they have with others.
When a husband or wife, boyfriend or girlfriend, violates one’s expectations about what is appropriate, people feel betrayed. Keep in mind that relationships are not based on logic, but they are influenced by our emotions.
Cheating is difficult to define because people differ in the type of contact they feel it is appropriate for a partner to have with someone else.
For example, some people believe that it is unacceptable for a partner to:
-Flirt with others
-Engage in sexual talk with someone else
-Exchange personal e-mails or text messages
-Deny being married or in a relationship
-Spend time with specific individuals
-Engage in specific types of contact—sleeping in the same bed with another person
-Purchase intimate gifts and presents for others
-Chat online with someone else (online affairs)
-Have sexual contact with someone else (physical infidelity)
-Become emotionally involved with someone else (emotional infidelity)
-Develop a crush or feelings for another individual
-Share their most private thoughts and feelings with someone else
-Become best friends with someone of the opposite sex
-And the list could go on and on….Right now, you can’t prove your partner is actually having sex with other people.
Again, the main point is that individuals differ in what they consider to be an acceptable form of contact with other people. It is a lot easier to deceive one’s self, and a partner about cheating, when the rules are not clear.
Want to know if something is cheating? If you wouldn’t do it with your spouse standing there, it’s cheating.
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