HomewreckerEye Spy Blog 1
Did you know that you can’t spell Hooker, Whore or Homewrecker, without the HO? A Homewrecker is a person who is blamed for the breakup of a marriage or family. This especially due to having engaged in an affair with one member of a couple.
When your marriage has ended and you discover that it is because your spouse has had an affair and/or has fallen in love with someone else, you may be tempted to seek revenge against the person who has “stolen” your spouse’s affections.
The ‘other woman,’ ‘slut,’ ‘whore,’ ‘homewrecker’ — we’ve heard it all before, and some of us have even said things like that about the women our partners cheated with. But why is that? Why do so many people blame the other woman? Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying that it’s okay to be involved with another woman’s man.
What I am saying is why are we blaming the person the cheater cheated WITH, rather than blaming the cheater himself?
Women know what it’s like to fall in love, and to love so deeply, you make yourself believe things you shouldn’t believe. Haven’t we all been there? It’s second nature to us, or make that, first nature. We want to believe that the man we love is not a lying, cheating user. We want to believe it when he says he loves us and wants to marry us.
When you fall for a man, it’s difficult, if not impossible, to be completely objective and make good choices.
The reality, of course, is that the “other woman” isn’t a mythical creature with a magical female body part . She’s subject to the same lust-fade as the rest of us, regardless of whether she was the pursuer of your man.
There is no guarantee of security — for anyone. It’s a fantasy that most men cheat because of the seductive qualities of the other woman. The truth is, men cheat for their own idiosyncratic, internal reasons.
We need to understand that even though the woman who has been intimate with your partner might not ever be your friend, she’s also not your enemy.
Remember this: that woman didn’t force your man to make the choice to cheat on you. No one put a gun to his head. HE is responsible for his own actions, including the one that has caused you so much pain.
I’m only asking that you consider this and that you put the blame where it should be — ON THE CHEATER. If your home is wrecked, it isn’t the other woman that wrecked it. Your partner is the “homewrecker.” Don’t let him off the hook by blaming her. He’s a big boy, and he knew what he was doing. It’s perfectly ok to be mad as hell at both of them. But remember, cheating takes two!
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