Could it be that he’s just not that into you? No matter what age you are or level of dating experience, reading men’s interest in you can be a struggle. Many men prefer to remain a mystery, opting for privacy in all areas of their lives until they are ready to make a major commitment. If you recognize any of the signs below call the Michigan Private Investigators at Eye Spy today.
Girls want to know just how you know he’s just not that into you (actually guys want to know the same things about women). In both cases, some clear rules apply. You have to be aware that even though you may be enjoying an LSD-like love high, your new significant other may be feeling something entirely different.
Maybe He’s Just Not That Into You
God bless the fella who will tell you his intentions up front. But for most men, catching on to their subtle (and not-so-subtle) cues can be an easier way to get their message and avoid unnecessary heartbreak. If you are wondering if your guy is on the fence, but are unsure of whether you should jet. If anyone you are seeing exhibits a significant number of these traits, it is time to tell him to move along.
Here are some clues that, He’s Just Not That Into You:
The EX Factor
Bringing up his Ex is fine, in a neutral situation. However, if he starts crying while drinking and calling out her name, it’s just not going to work. Constantly talking about past relationships is tacky. It implies that there are still some unresolved issues lingering in his head, whether it’s rage, resentment or doubt. This rule applies to you too. Do not mention your previous love life and its contents, including: pet names, restraining orders or penis size. In the beginning of a relationship, each party should ideally have a clean slate and be on their best behavior, instead of showcasing their baggage like a badge of honor.
Failure To Launch
This describes a young adult or grown adult who seems to be “stuck,” not “moving forward” or “maturing” in a way that seems appropriate for his/her age and expectations as well as the expectations of parents and loved ones.
Maybe he/she is trying to move from a structured world to a less structured one: from high school to college, for instance. This situation can promote tremendous growth OR tremendous regression especially if the young adult has difficulty with organizational or independent living skills.
Maybe they are dealing with a complex challenge or diagnoses such as Asperger’s Syndrome, Bipolar Disorder, Learning Disabilities, ADD/ADHD or any other of a multitude of issues that contribute to the inability to satisfactorily develop the type of identity needed to persevere and be independent.
Perhaps the young adult never internalized a sense of self confidence based on their own, lived experiences where they overcame challenges, faced complex social encounters, dealt with the anxiety of sharing a passion in music or art or revealed some vulnerability to the world and felt all right about it. Whatever the reason, they are overwhelmed. They need greater support. In short, they are NOT ready for a relationship.
Sampling the Milk vs. Buying The Cow: He’s Just Not That Into You
He tells you he’s not ready for a relationship. I can’t believe how many times I’ve heard women dismiss this statement and continue pursuing unavailable men. These guys will flat out tell you that they don’t want to commit to you, but here you are, baking them cookies, enjoying naked sleepovers and gushing to all your girlfriends about what a catch he is. Because, “once he sees how great you are, he will surely commit.
What you allow is what will continue. Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free?
Returning your call or Text in a Timely Fashion
Nothing is easier than sending a text, it takes 2 seconds.He might not be sending you a text message, but he is certainly sending you a clear message of another kind. On to the next one! If your male friend is taking hours or days to call/text you back…He’s Just Not That into You!
He maintains his distance, physically and emotionally
Does he often break eye contact, even in private? Or withhold sharing personal details about his life? On the physical and emotional levels, a guy who will not share just doesn’t want to go too deep. That can be fine for a fling, but it’s not worth making an emotional investment on your part. If you have had your fun, it’s time to move on to brighter horizons.
He avoids touching you in public
If your guy friend loves to embrace, kiss and cuddle in the privacy of your home, but won’t even hold your hand on the street, this is a major warning sign. Either he doesn’t want to be seen as being “with” you, or he is scared one of his other lovers (or his wife!) will see you out in public. Drop this dude if he won’t even hold your hand.
If this happens, you need to call the Michigan Private Investigators at Eye Spy Detective Agency right away 888-393-7799
He rudely shoots down your ideas
A guy can disagree with your way of seeing the world and still care. If all he does is disrespectfully disregard your perspective when communicating, he likely doesn’t think much of you. You don’t want to be with someone who can’t treat you nicely, especially when you are simply talking. Next!
He only sees you after midnight
It’s hard if you really like someone to open your eyes and admit to yourself that to him, you are a booty call. If you can handle that, more power to you. But don’t expect this relationship to go anywhere. If you want more from a man, it’s time to search elsewhere.
He won’t let you leave things at his house
If you are at his place often, a guy who is into you will be happy to let you stow essentials there. But if someone you are frequently dating won’t even let you leave a toothbrush at his house he is either a) an obsessive compulsive neat freak, or b) trying to hide you from other women. In either case, you might want to distance yourself.
Could It Be True? Maybe He’s Just Not Into You
Hearing the words, “He’s just not that into you” is painful, but it’s best to find out the truth early on in your relationship. If you suspect funny business with the love of your life, they may be cheating. Call the Detroit Michigan Private Investigators at Eye Spy Detective Agency right away 888-393-7799